Birthdays are such a special celebration of life – another year of lessons, successes, failures, opportunities, dreams and aspirations.  I find myself always feeling so emotional.  I’ve been given another year of healthy and happy children and walls filled with laughter and love.

As we prepared for Gray’s 2nd birthday party, I found myself thinking about how I really did not want gifts cluttering my home that we didn’t need. My children have more gifts and toys than they could ever want or need.  As a social worker, I aim to teach my children the importance of helping others and being thankful. So, instead of accepting gifts we asked that our guests bring a gift for a 10 year old boy. He would be celebrating his birthday with only his social worker in a residential treatment facility in Virginia.

What is Worthdays?

Worthdays was started by a fellow social worker and friend of mine. Worthdays believes that one of the most universal needs of all children and youth is to feel wanted and worthy. Worthdays aims to do this for children in foster care in Virginia who are often ignored and forgotten.

There are many children across the world, the United States, and in the Commonwealth of Virginia, that have birthdays that come and go and are not celebrated. Children may find themselves celebrating a birthday in a non-relative foster placement, independent living facility, group home or residential facility.  They likely will have no party, no gifts, and no one who is excited to share in their special day, and who is separated from family and loved ones because of the actions or behaviors of adults in their life.

Foster Care in Virginia

As of April 1, 2018 there are 5,271 children in foster care in Virginia. 836 of those children, are between the ages of 1-3 like my Gray and 640 between ages of 4-6 like my Palmer.  13% of those children have been in 6 or more placements.  49% of these children are in foster care due to neglect, 27% due to parental substance abuse and 15% due to physical abuse. (Department of Social Services, 2018).

In recent years, Virginia has ranked as the state with the highest percentage of children aging out of foster care without permanency. This means that during their time in foster care the system was unable to safely reunify them with their parents or family members and was unable to place them with an adoptive family.

How can you get involved?

If you are interested in celebrating the birthdays of children in foster care and making an impact in our Commonwealth, please check out Instagram and Facebook for future box needs. Grab a group of friends, your child’s sports team or club, your colleagues, or family and sponsor a box.

Most importantly – Happy 2nd birthday dear Gray. I love you more than you will ever know. Being your mom these past 2 years and watching you and your brother grow up brings me more joy than you will ever know.  The sky is the limit buddy – thank you for letting me be your mama.

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21 thoughts on “Happy Birthday! Foster care youth in VA and celebrations

  1. Amazing! I’ll definitely check out Worthdays. We did something similar for our boys’ first and second birthdays. And Happy Birthday, Gray!

    1. The biggest bonus – no random toys coming in my house! The boys never once asked for gifts or where their stuff was which I was so so so proud of! Excited to do it again soon ❤️

  2. I was a social worker and never knew of this. I absolutely love this idea. This is something I need to learn more about.

  3. This is a great idea. I hope this program expands to other states too. 🙂

  4. Wow, this is absolutely amazing and warms my heart! You guys are so awesome, I love what you guys are doing- what a beautiful cause.

    Happy birthday to your son!! Hope he has the best day ever.

    cute & little

  5. What an incredible thing to celebrate. Your son’s birthday and that of another young boy who could use some extra love in his life. So thoughtful of you and your family!

  6. What a beautiful thing to celebrate I love this so much! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️


  7. I love this idea! My best friends are foster parents so this is so close to my heart, I’m so excited about this!

  8. What an amazing thing you guys did, celebrating with another boy who could use the extra love! You guys are such a sweet family!

    1. I’m a social worker so it’s imperative for my boys to understand that there are families who need extra help!

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