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Life gets busy and before we know it, we look up and our baby is 5 and we are registering for Kindergarten. Seriously – how does this happen? No seriously… someone tell me how this is truly my life. Or maybe you look up and it’s 6pm and the day has flown by and you aren’t sure what you did all day other than clean up messes and make snacks and wipe butts on repeat all day. Being a present parent sounds great in concept, but the execution isn’t that easy. If you want to be more present in your child’s life, here are 5 tips to help you be a more present parent.

Wake up before your kids

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We all have busy schedules, and waking up before your kids will increase the chance that you have time to do the things you need to do. If you wake up before your kids, you have time for yourself so you’re ready for them when they do wake up. Maybe you get up and drink a cup of coffee on your porch in peace and quiet. Go to the gym and work out before they rise. Cook yourself a breakfast or read a book. SELF CARE is key in raising kids. We can not pour from an empty cup.

Take advantage and cherish family time

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Instead of rushing through family time, really take advantage of these moments and cherish them. As your kids get older and they have their own schedules and events, family time gets harder to schedule. Do you have a day that’s reserved for your family? Sunday afternoons are for fire pits and smores at our house. Maybe Friday nights are pizza night in to connect and catch up after a busy week.

Unplug

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You don’t have to be completely unplugged and off of social media. Aim to be unplugged for at least part of your day. If setting a schedule doesn’t work well for you, then put your phones in a drawer during dinner or bedtime. Plug your phone up across your bedroom at night so you can connect with your spouse for a few minutes before you both pass out from exhaustion.

Make time for one-on-one time with your kids

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Once a month, try to make time for one-on-one time with each of your kids. If you can do it more frequently then do it! Let them pick the activity and take the time to just be present with him/her. This is absolutely my favorite advice for moms of multiple kids. It’s time well spent for everyone!

Listen to your kids

Our kids have a lot to say! Take the time to listen to them and hear the stories they have to tell. Listening to their story about Spiderman or a part of their day at school will show them that they matter and what they have to say matters. You may want to lose your cool (and some days you will) because they are sharing that they broke a plate. But take a breath and thank them for coming to you. Listening to our kids when they are little transfers to them feeling comfortable when they are older and want to talk about bigger issues.

No matter how old your kids are, they need time with you! Being a parent is hard, it takes a village. Your kids don’t need you to be perfect, just present.

What tips help you be a present parent?

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Xoxo

Erin

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  • Angel Sames
    April 3, 2019

    I needed this list. I’ve been working my butt of and haven’t been very present. Thank you!

    • Erin
      April 3, 2019

      Girl we all do it. Hang in there mama!

      • Angel Sames
        April 3, 2019

        I will ❤️

  • Amakeda Ponds
    April 3, 2019

    Simple but overlooked tips. I needed a few if these reminders…especially unplug. Thanks.

    • Erin
      April 3, 2019

      Me too mama. Its so hard!

  • Natasha @MrsChettyLife
    April 3, 2019

    My baby loves one on one time. He can tell the difference and he has a bigger smile when I give him all my concentration.

    • Erin
      April 3, 2019

      My two older guys just soak it all in. Its such a rarity with three little ones that it feels like such a treat!

  • Kristi
    April 3, 2019

    Man, sometimes I wish I wasn’t raising children in the age of smart phones and social media. I spend wayyyy to much time on my phone and I try so hard to be present…but sometimes getting on my phone/ social media is an escape for me. But, I know I will regret not taking advantage of this time when they are older.

    • Erin
      April 4, 2019

      I tell my grandma this ALL OF THE TIME!

  • Sonja- Too Much Character
    April 4, 2019

    My husband and I will divide and conquer with our little ones sometimes to give them the one on one time. Our oldest thrives when he gets that kind of attention. Great tips!

    • Erin
      April 4, 2019

      Divide and conquer was the name of our game too until baby 3 came 🙂 HA

  • Mai
    April 4, 2019

    This is a reminder to my husband and I. We are often times too busy with life’s drama that we forget to be more present in our parenting.
    Thanks for sharing!

    • Erin
      April 4, 2019

      We all are guilty girl. 🙂

  • literallysimple
    April 4, 2019

    Yes! Waking up before my family is my secret weapon. It helps me have some time alone before the chaos begins. Excellent tips! I also tend to be more present if I’m in nature, so we tend to all go outside a lot.

    • Erin
      April 4, 2019

      Girl WE LIVE OUTSIDE! Its so good for us all 🙂

  • Modern Moms Club
    April 4, 2019

    Love love love your tips. I’m still trying to master waking up before my kids. Lol

    • Erin
      April 4, 2019

      Its so hard. Were all in this together mama!

  • Stephanie
    April 4, 2019

    Such a great post! I definitely needed this list. I need to start waking up before the kids as all that rush in the morning is putting a lot of pressure on all of us and we end up with unneeded tantrums. One on one time is also so important, planning to have a one on one time with each of my kids this weekend!

    • Erin
      April 4, 2019

      Yes, it gives me some time to eat and have some much needed caffeine before the storm hits:)

  • Annie
    April 4, 2019

    great tips. I have recently been trying to turn off the TV and leave my phone while it’s just me and the girls eating. I put on music instead and talk to them. Sounds so simple but it makes me feel good!

    • Erin
      April 4, 2019

      We LOVE music at our house too!

  • dadbloguk
    April 6, 2019

    Oh it’s creating one on one time for your kids that’s the struggle I find. It can be very difficult but it is clealy very, very important.

    • Erin
      April 6, 2019

      Oh I so agree. Its comforting to know we are all struggling with it together!

  • crummymummy1
    April 11, 2019

    All great tips – although I’m not sure about the first one when I’m up every few hours during the night! #ThatFridayLinky

    • Erin
      April 11, 2019

      Girl I feel you, my 7 month old still wakes up 6-7 times! Everyone has their own thing, but having even 5-10 minutes to myself helps me immensely! Hang in there mama.

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